Thursday, September 20, 2012

5 dating books that terrify yet fascinate me

List by Danielle

'It's universal because it's based on natural attraction, what all women are hardwired to respond to, and attraction is an emotion, not a decision.'
~ From 'The Manual'

You know the books I mean: you can get ANY and every girl/guy you want -- if you follow my xyz algebra of love, memorise these simple and literally irresistable pick-up lines, treat them as an enemy to be conquered, fix your own broken self up (because it's actually all your fault) with tanning/smooth sales patter/a hard-ass attitude makeover... I want to read them. I don't want to read them. (I can't make up my mind. I think I do. I am morbidly curious about how bad they actually are.) I feel tacky having them on my desk (this is not my book about 'creeping in the club'! I don't know how these shamelessly self-promoting abs got here!), and I really, really wonder where the many missing copies of each have wound up. They're hilariously funny, until they start talking about the targeted gender and then they are just super scary. Yes, there are books aimed at both men and women. Nobody is exempt from being crept on/hypnotised/sold a false bill of sale.

(Please note: there are many excellent and honestly wise and funny dating guides out there on our shelves: you can browse through some of them here. I just went hunting for some of the more left-field dating books after coming across the monumentally scary-looking 'The Manual' on the New Titles list.)

Sales tricks that will make men desperate to date you. Whether you've found yourself waiting for him to call or given up everything for a relationship that went nowhere, getting a guy to commit can be like getting him to walk over a bed of hot coals. Jess McCann has been there. She used to make the same mistakes we've all made with men--until she realized that the winning formula to attracting the right guy lay in skills she already had. As a successful saleswoman, Jess has practiced over and over the techniques in promoting a product, finding the right approach, making the pitch, and closing deal after deal. Once she started to apply these same techniques to the dating scene, her love life made a complete one-eighty, and she found herself with more interested men than she knew what to do with.

The natural : how to effortlessly attract the women you want / Richard La Ruina

Richard La Ruina used to be the guy who couldn't get the girl. Shy, painfully awkward, and still living at home with his mother, at twenty-five he decided to finally take control of his life and become the kind of man men admire and women desire. Today, La Ruina is one of the world's best-known pickup artists, someone who can confidently approach and attract any woman. La Ruina, as founder of PUA Training (Pickup Artist Training), has personally coached thousands of men through their own dramatic transformations. In The Natural, he brings that experience to you, delivering field-tested methods and easy-to-use tools for attracting the women you want. Just like riding a bike or driving a car, meeting women and making them fall for you is a learned skill that, with enough practice, becomes effortless. There's no need for tricks, gimmicks, or lies. Instead, these methods make you more confident and therefore more attractive to women. Using the tools in The Natural, you'll finally feel comfortable in your own skin and have the ability to attract women just by being yourself. From body language to conversation starters, eye contact to the first touch, The Natural is a step-by-step blueprint for being the guy women can't resist.

If you want to play the Game, you've got to know the Rules. In his international bestseller, The Game, Neil Strauss delved into the secret world of pickup artists—men who have made a science out of the art of seduction. Now, in this bestselling companion book, Strauss breaks down the knowledge he learned and techniques he invented into simple step-by-step instructions that anyone can follow to have success with women. This expanded one-volume edition of Rules of the Game includes a new preface and a whole new book of powerful, field-tested word-for-word routines, published here for the first time.

This book here will take your game to a level thought unattainable, given your physical limitations (because we can't all look like Rambo, pretty much, with our shirt off). We start with GTL-the bedrock of life itself. And then we hit the GTL Remix-the rules for getting your personal grooming did. From there it's my guide to the Jersey Shore, battle plans for the club, a primer on grenades and wingmen, and tips for ridding yourself of all levels of clinger. Then I look at the big picture: how to cook the perfect lasagna, how to find a life partner, and how to deal with being one of the most famous people on the planet-which is guaranteed if you follow my advice.

The Manual is the ultimate and only guide to getting girls and to understand women once and for all. This is why guys that read it don't read or recommend anything else. Because the few men who "get it" spend the rest of their lives enjoying sexy girls in abundance – and so can you. You can learn to get ANY girl you want, the same way that all men who are naturally good with women have. The only difference is that you may learn it much FASTER, instead of wasting tons of time and money on fruitless dates or a new car/haircut/shirt that you BELIEVE will make you more attractive – but really doesn't. You see; men LACK success with women because they either don't understand what women are attracted to, or because they THINK that they do know, but have the wrong ideas and hence waste a lot of time - sometimes their entire life - chasing things they don't need. You know you have to get this book if you believe women want men with money, cars, or anything else that is manmade, because that doesn't make any sense. If women really were attracted to something unnatural, how did men meet women before any of those things were invented?


James said...

The Jersey Shore book scares me. No offense but these people can be aggressive. If I would be dating someone, I have hopes that it’s a possible long term relationship up ahead and that’s the same fact why I would not take an advice from anyone in Jersey.

Danielle said...

Totally agreed, James. The Jersey Shore book is SCARY. I bet there are some people in Jersey whose advice is, in fact, worth having, but this particular book has a chapter comparing women to cuts of meat. 'Nuff said.